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How To Escape the “Relying on Referrals” Trap and Get More Clients

brand messaging & positioning Jun 24, 2025
 

Feeling stuck relying on word-of-mouth to grow your consulting or coaching business? Even the most connected professionals hit this wall. But here's the good news, there is a more strategic way forward.

When I first launched my consulting practice, the referrals came naturally. Former clients reached out. Friends introduced me to colleagues. It was validating, and effective. Until it wasn’t. Thankfully, referrals were not my main (or only) source. 

At some point, the referrals slowed down. It happens to all of us, no matter how how strong our network is. Expecting your network to be your marketing strategy is a trap! If you overly dependent on people remembering you, recommending you, and describing what you do clearly enough for someone else to say “Yes!” you're in the trap.

In this post, I’m going to break down what the “referral trap” looks like, why it happens even to seasoned pros, and what you can do to escape it without having to become a social media influencer or marketing guru.

What Is the Relying on Referrals Trap?

The “referrals on repeat” dream can quietly keep you stuck. It feels easy and organic, but it’s also completely out of your control.

You might be in this trap if:

  • You’re waiting for past clients to bring you your next opportunity.

  • You prefer others to do the talking and selling for you.

  • You feel uncomfortable with marketing, so you just hope networking will be enough.

I know this trap because I've seen it over and over again with clients, brilliant consultants who started strong but eventually hit a plateau.

Why Referrals Dry Up (Even If You’re Great at What You Do)

Here’s the truth: even the most enthusiastic clients eventually stop referring you if:

  1. They move on and forget the exact value you brought.

  2. Your message evolves, but they’re still sharing your old positioning.

  3. You’re tying your livelihood to someone else’s memory, clarity, and willingness to promote you.

Even with the best network, there's only so much reach. You need a way to expand beyond your first- and second-degree connections.

Escaping the Trap Starts With One Shift: Reclaiming Your Visibility

The biggest barrier isn’t strategy, it’s fear. The fear of being seen. The fear of taking up space and owning your unique message.

To build a consistent client pipeline, you need to take ownership of your brand, your message, and your visibility. That’s how you stop waiting and start attracting.

5 Steps to Build a Predictable Client Pipeline (Without Playing Small)

Here’s the roadmap I now teach consultants and coaches who want off the referral rollercoaster:

1. Nail Your Messaging With a Clear “What I Do” Script

You need to be able to clearly, confidently explain:

  • The people you help

  • The specific problem you solve

  • The value clients get when they work with you

Example: "So you know when companies are scaling and everything starts falling apart? What I do is help senior teams align around strategic priorities so they grow smarter, not harder."

This isn’t just about marketing, it’s about helping people recognize you as the solution to their problems.

2. Build a Website That Converts

Even if your business is relationship-driven, your future clients will check out your website.

Make sure it:

  • Reinforces your credibility

  • Speaks directly to your ideal client

  • Makes it easy to take the next step (like booking a call)

3. Optimize LinkedIn for Relational, Not Transactional, Networking

Treat LinkedIn like a professional networking event. Don’t lead with a pitch. Show up authentically. Make it easy for others to refer you, and even easier for potential clients to say, “That’s exactly who I need.”

4. Network for Clients (Not Just Referrals)

Move beyond coffees with colleagues. Prioritize:

  • Events your ideal clients attend

  • Hosting your own roundtables or meetups

  • Speaking at professional associations

  • Connecting with potential clients directly

Be consistent. Be visible. And most of all be helpful.

5. Ask for Testimonials and Introductions—Strategically

When a project ends, don’t let the momentum die. Ask for:

  • A testimonial that highlights the specific transformation

  • An introduction to one or two people they think would benefit from your work

Make this part of your wrap-up process, not an afterthought.

You Don’t Have to Wait Anymore

Relying on referrals feels safe. But real control, and real growth, comes from stepping into the spotlight and creating your own momentum.

You deserve a business that supports your purpose and income goals. And it starts with building a system that reflects the value you bring, consistently and confidently.

Ready to Take the Next Step?

  • Grab the free guide to clarify your messaging and attract more of the right clients: betsyjordyn.com/downloads

  • Explore my services if you’re ready to break free from the referral trap and build a predictable pipeline: betsyjordyn.com/services

  • Share this post with a fellow coach or consultant who’s relying too much on word-of-mouth and needs a better path forward.

About me: 

Betsy Jordyn is a brand messaging strategist and business mentor for purpose-driven consultants and coaches. With a background in organizational development—including a consulting career with Disney—she helps experts clarify their unique value, position themselves strategically, and build businesses that deliver impact, income, and personal fulfillment. Connect with Betsy Jordyn to clarify your message, elevate your brand, and attract the clients you're meant to serve. Start here → https://www.betsyjordyn.com/services 

 

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